Is lube a sex toy? That’s an interesting question if you think about it. While it doesn’t exactly fit the traditional conception of a sex toy, it’s undeniably essential when it comes to sex. And what’s more, getting the wrong kind of lube can make good sex bad and bad sex into a genital burning nightmare. So you have to make sure you’re getting something that a) does lubricate everything that needs to be lubricated b) has a formula that won’t hurt you and c) won’t disrupt any toys or barriers you need for sex and masturbation. With these considerations taken, you’ll be able to find lubes that fit your needs and can make sex and masturbation go much more smoothly.
But I’m not 100% satisfied with a lube that just makes things go a little smoother. Picky hedonist that I am, I tend to want a lube that can actually add another layer of pleasure. It’s one thing for a lubricant to make something slippery enough that I can get it into my ass, it’s another thing entirely for a lube to make me feel sensual and pampered while I stretch my ass out.
Enter The Butters, an oil based lube made by the Butters Hygienics Co. The Butters is a silky, sensual and pH balanced lube that made my sex and masturbation life better. I’ve actually had a partner tempted to eat the lube because the lube is appetizing all by itself, which is something I’ve never heard of happening with lubes not marketed as flavored (and lets be honest, even most flavored lubes aren’t something you want by themselves).
When I first encountered the Butters, I primarily used it for anal play since I was nervous about how it might affect my vaginal flora. And when used for slicking up the nJoy Pure Plug, it was just fucking amazing. Because of the oil based nature of the lube, I didn’t have to worry about the lube sliding off the toy before I could get into in my ass. With the Butters smeared over the slick, shiny butt plug, my ass felt incredibly spoiled. I’ve tried other, water based lubes for anal masturbation but the Butters topped out when it came to comfort and ease of use.
After playing around with the lube for a little while though, I gradually started introducing into more areas of my sex life. I used it to make PiV sex WAY easier and more comfortable, as well as handjobs and as an aid to oral sex. A slight digression, the Butters is apparently formulated by former chefs, and it fucking shows. This lube is a massive step up from chemically tasting lubes. Thank GOD.
The texture of the Butters was initially slightly grainy when scooped from the jar, but when it heated to body temperature, it felt so silky and soft. I found it pretty arousing to apply the Butters to a partner and then watch the lube liquefy under the heat of how turned on they were. This tiny little detail has a pretty big impact on how I feel getting ready to have sex.
Not only is the texture and ease of use amazing, the Butters also lasts for far longer than any water based lube I own. For reference, when I give a handjob with Good Clean Love, I usually need to re up on lube every few minutes to make sure my hands are still gliding smoothly along my partner’s cock.
With the Butters? I would maybe, MAYBE reapply once. Fucking nice. And while this lube is great for more than just jerking off a cock, it’s where the difference between water and oil based lubes is most starkly apparent.
Now, while I adore the Butters, I would be remiss if I were not to address the two things that might make this lube not for everyone. The first is pure mechanics: if you’re planning on using this for penetrative sex with a partner, you can’t use this lube with a latex condom since it will cause this material to degrade. If you’re not fluid-bonded and you don’t have an alternative method of birth control? Then the Butters would shine for oral and manual sex, while a water based lube would be your best bet for penetration.
The only other caveat for this lube is that it comes in a jar rather than a pump. This seems initially like not a big deal, but every time you dip in your hand to get lube, you’re depositing whatever is on your hands into the lube. If you wash your hands (and hey, you should be with the virus going around) then you won’t have any issues, but it’s something you might want to keep in mind.
In all, I really can’t get enough of the Butters. I actually might need to write a second post for all the OTHER uses of the Butters outside of purely lubrication purposes because hey it can also be: a makeup remover, a moisturizer and (according to GirlyJuice) a leather conditioner. I guess then, the Butters isn’t a sex toy, or if it is, it isn’t just a sex toy. The Butters is a Swiss Army Knife of sensual pleasure disguised as a jar of lube. And you should absolutely get it.
This product was provided to me free of charge in exchange for my honest review. Thanks The Butters Hygienics Co!